Frighting without fear

  I am thinking what is stopping me frighting for my dreams very often recently? Is it fear of failure? Fear of rejection? Now I might say it’s none of those things. It’s because I’m actually just no good at x, y, or z. I started thinking about this recently and I realised that what actually stands in the way of my goals is emotion rather than incompetence. I’ve heard people say: “I can’t get a job as a developer because I’m no good at programming.” Or people say: “I can’t start working for this company because it is too many uncertainties."

  All of us at some points in our lives have bought into this way of thinking. And that’s why many of us spend our waking moments bettering ourselves. Trying to lose weight, trying to earn more certificates, trying to appear more successful. I’m not saying people should stop doing these things, but I’m asking myself to consider, what’s the percentage done out of joy and what percentage to fill a feeling of inadequacy?

  I often lost & I thought it is because of my inadequacies and never feel quite ready to make an attempt at my dreams. In most cases, it’s the after-effects that we worry about. If I leave my job to start a company and it fails. How could I deal with the situation if I take up some challenging tasks but failed finally! So I don’t try until I could ensure I am overqualified. I tell myself that I have studied programming for 10 years then I can pick up a mobile app coding task. Once I have saved a thousand million dollars, then I can try to build my company. 

  The problem with this logic is that day rarely happens. However, there is an alternative path. The path less travelled because it’s less intuitive. I can simply become someone who can master their emotions. What if rejection didn’t hurt and failure didn’t feel so bad? I should be the person that no matter what happened, I can still feel happy and full of joy. Then maybe I would try more, dare more, experiment more. And I could tell people that I have tried & I am proud of myself whatever the outcome ^_^